Good Virtues

As I was browsing through some websites, I came across this interesting blog which somehow relate to how I generally perceive relationships and trust..Although I do not entirely agree to what this writer wrote, still it represented a part of me..So have a read and if you have anything to comment about it, please feel free to do so..

Cheers! ^^v

July 10

Good Virtues

Wise men have spoken a lot of about the importance being honest. Also; in any relationships…there is also the importance of being sincere. Truth sometimes hurts but…it also helps you from hurting someone or even loose trust with someone. To me…I don’t find any reasons for telling lies to anyone. It’s just simply because…in the end I don’t want to bury myself with endless lies.

To earn the trust of any person…is far precious than gold…but to loose it…is like dripping water in desert. Once you loose the trust…it’s very hard to get it back. I have earlier mentioned in several instances of being careful of the people you meet. Not all you see is gold. It’s the intent of the people…which makes what they are. Cunning and conniving people always have bad intent in their mind…as they always have plots to hurt another person.

There is an old biblical saying “…A friend hurts you only because he loves you…but bewares of an enemy who puts his arms around your neck…” Honestly…it’s very hard to know what the real intent of the person…until we either fall prey to a bad person…or benefit the goodness of a kind person. The worse people I hate the most…is people who exploit the goodness of a good person. I myself…got exploited with such people…and because of them…several times…I hated myself…for being good. Just because you are polite…some people think you are dumb…or don’t know how to say anything back. These people simply don’t understand…politeness. Then again…another important virtue is…forgiving.

To forgive someone especially when the person commits a mistake intentionally or not…is truly a rare virtue. You don’t have to be a magnanimous person to forgive someone. I know sometimes…people crosses limits…and they end up hurting you so much…that even such heavy hearts…to forgive that person…is not possible. I even don’t have words to express as I even faced such people. Some of my concept of goodness is…like when you help someone…never expect any favours in return…but the only thing you asked for…is that person not to hurt you. Imagine you helped someone…and you don’t want anything in return…but that person treats you with disrespect, contempt and above all insults you in front of everyone…only because you helped that bad person.

Well…I faced with such people and even worse than them. I honestly hate such people…as they are even far worse than vagabonds, deceivers, liars and boasters. I call such people…as Parasites. There are no better words for them. Like real Parasites…they suck you dry…till there is nothing left in you…and once (because of them) you’re left with nothing…they’ll abandon you…and insult you. My advice…Once you realise these kinds of people…STAY AWAY FROM THEM!!! True…everywhere you go…it’s hard to find a real nice person. It’s even harder to be ourselves especially when you are faced with such despicable people.
I used to think hard as to should I be good…or be bad because of I got hurt helping bad people…then came the question in my mind “What will the world do…when good people does nothing?” This question brought to me so much of happiness and more importantly the importance of being of who you are. Just because you suffered the consequences of being hurt by a bad person…doesn’t mean…you must be bad. Still be your self. Think of yourself…like a small ray of light…at the end of a very dark tunnel. Also; when you do good things…people around you notices…and they too will do good things. Again…Its Karma…when you do good things…good things happen to you. Again…there is a biblical proverb which says “…Never overcome good…by doing evil…but overcome evil…by doing good". A good example is…A Doctor who knows that medically the patient will die soon…so with a ray of hope…he lies to the patient that…he will surely live. Why? Only because of the little ray of hopes that the Doctor instils in the patient’s belief that the patient will live. If you see…Doctor’s lie…is bad in both morally and job ethics…but he is doing this for a good purpose…in saving the life of a patient.

Then again comes to the question of respect. To me earning respect, money and trust…are very important. Both have similar powers…and if you loose them…is like dripping water in the desert. You earn your respect through your commitment and devotion to the attainment of anything you want to achieve. Our education is our shield. The more you are educated…the better you are respected. Profession to me is the best respect you can get through education. What’s the difference between profession and normal jobs? Emm…Can an medical Doctor’s job be done by anyone?…Or Can an Engineer’s job be done by anyone?…or Can an Chartered Accountant’s job be done by anyone? Every education broadens our understanding in different aspects of a subject. Very few people go beyond…for their never ending quench for knowledge. These kinds of people…specialise not only in one subject but try to learn as much as they can. The value of education is truly understood only by people…who have posses’ education…and especially the people who want to attain more knowledge. To me…foolish people, high school drop-outs, losers and vagabonds…always makes fun of an educated people… (…Some of them even say that your bachelors degree certificate you got from a nearby fish market and your masters degree certificate you got from 7-11 stores…) Why? Simply because…It’s hard to make sense to a fool. You don’t have to be a genius to attain knowledge. Just true devotion and commitment in what you want to achieve. Of course…you need to have the belief in yourself that “…Yes I can do it…” and always maintain your positive frame of mind.

Do you know Sir. Thomas A. Edison (inventor of light bulbs)…never attended school? In fact…when he was young…he got poor grades in his school days. His teacher got so fed up with his poor grades that the teacher told Edison’s Mom to stop sending him to school…only because he is not academically proficient enough…but Edison’s Mom never cared. She said to the teacher “…I never give up on my son…I know he is very intelligent…and he’ll grow up to be a very important respected person…”. Look what happened…! Our education…makes us understand the virtues in life. It’s for our education that helps us know what’s good and bad. Education enhances our knowledge, understanding about a certain aspects and more importantly…helps us be better persons.

I know I am diverting myself a bit from mentioning about the virtues like being honest and sincere. Being with innumerable relationships with my ex-gfs; I have learnt a lot about being sincere and honesty in a relationship. Most guys have the same problem which is commitment issues. When a handsome guy meets a pretty girl…he thinks of having a one night stand with her. If he thinks…she’s good to be his gf…then the gf-bf relationship pops out…but to the pretty girl…she’ll think her new bf…as her long time partner. The harsh reality…again is when the guy meets an even prettier girl…he’ll probably break up with his gf…and go out with the new girl. The whole thing revolves around…the guy being sincere and honest…with his gf. I find different girls…have different outlook to a relationship with their guys. Well…it could be the cultural factor or religious beliefs. Still…in my understanding…no matter how much the guys cheats on the girls…most of the girls still stick with their guys…for the sake of love. Very few guys are truly sincere and honest with their girls.

Again…being sincere and honest can be with different relationships. You have to be sincere and honest with your friends. Why? Simply because…Your friends trusts you. Your friends have trust in you that…you’ll be with your friends at times of happiness or sadness…or at times of your friends need of your help…Also; your friend in turn be there for you at times of your need for help, happiness or sadness. Well…No one can imagine a friend who betrays you! Worse of all…someone who becomes your friend…just because you have something that person needs…wealth, intelligence or even health!…and later betrays you…after that person gets what they want from you!

There are many things I hate…one thing I surely hate are liars and deceivers. To me liars, deceivers, boasters and vagabonds all belong to the same breath. I just condemn such people. Like what’s rightly mentioned in the Holy Bible “Respectful people never lies”. You see…when we do good or bad things…all reflects on our family…and also how we are being raised by our family. It’s very important for us to be good. Why?…It’s because when we do good things to the people who benefited the goodness from us…they’ll surely say “…you’re good person…so Dad and Mom are even better persons…”. There is nothing better than to bring more admiration and respect for our lovely family. We are the mirror to our family…and we reflect our family image to whoever we meet.

Lastly; again with regards to respect…I don’t like living under the shadow of my father’s respect or my family respect. My father worked hard to earn his education…and reputation as a good person which earned his respect. I don’t want people to me know under my father’s name…but I want my father to be known under my name. I know that my Dad…is highly proud of me…when people know him…through my name. When we were young…it’s an honour and admiration for us…to be known under our fathers and family names…but once we are mature…we have to earn our own respect. After all…Respect, Education and Trust…alongside with money…brings you good recognition and image in front of anyone. In order to get these 3…we must learn to inculcate within us good virtues…like honesty, courteousness, friendliness, empathy and the willingness to learn knowledge.

~Taken from a.k.a James Bond 007 (msn)~